One thing I’m eternally thankful for is having choices. Like, I choose to take a few months off work, or I choose to be abroad on vacation right now. There are larger and more significant choices, too, many of which weren’t afforded to women in earlier generations. Like, I choose to have a career. I choose to have an education. I choose to not be married. I choose to not have children.
There, I said it. I will not have kids. That’s my choice.
It’s not that I can’t have kids – I actually don’t know if it’s possible but I’ve spent my entire adult life avoiding it. I will not have children. I don’t want them. Never have, never will.
A lot of people say to me “oh, but you’ll change your mind.” I am confident that’s not going to happen.
This isn’t to say that I don’t like children. They’re super fun, but I’m always happy to give them back. And this isn’t to say I judge the people who DO have children. In fact, I have the utmost respect for all parents, and particularly working mums. They take multi-tasking to a whole new level.
But I have never believed you can have it all. The people whe started that whole myth have a lot to answer for, in my view. They’ve set us up – women especially – to believe you can have everything. But the reality is that when you’re juggling all the balls (career, kids, personal, family etc) then one or more will get dropped.
Raising a child or two is the most important thing a human can do, and I know I wouldn’t be happy, challenged or satisfied if I made my career a second priority to motherhood. Also, I have no desire to sacrifice my independence, or my holiday budget, in order to raise a sprong or two. Some may say that’s a really selfish decision, and maybe it is. But it’s a choice I’ve made, and I stand by it.